When someone hit you with a blunt βWrongβ? Even when theyβre technically correct, that word tends to light a fuse. Defensiveness spikes, openness plummets, and the conversation derails. Not because truth doesnβt matterβbut because judgment shuts brains and doors.
This simple shift can change that. Itβs a small skill from our professional-level coaching playbook, and when practiced consistently, it elevates your presence, preserves relationships, and gets you to better outcomes faster.
The problem with βyouβre wrongβ
It assumes universal truth: You place your view as the standard and impose it on the other person.
It triggers reactance: People push back just because they felt pushed.
It burns bridges: Even when youβre right, you make it hard for them to agree without losing face.
Sometimes you disengage Not everyone will meet you in the middle. If they stay combative or refuse to engage, you may need to step back. Stillβby acknowledging, owning, and partnering, youβve maximized your influence and kept the door open for agreement on their own terms later.
Maik Frank
Maik is a PCC Executive Coach and the founder of IntelliCoach.com. He has coached and trained over 400 People Leaders to improve their communication skills and offers guaranteed measurable growth to his clients. He also hosts the Coaching Leader Podcast.
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