ποΈ EP 119: Don't Coach the Ghost
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Itβs a familiar scenario. You go into a discussion and you spend 20 minutes talking about someone who isn't even in the room; you end up walking away with zero actionable solutions.
I call this 'investigating a ghost'. When team members come to you frustrated about a colleague, it's tempting to play detective together, analyzing that absent person's motives and behaviors. But here's the trap: you can't coach/change someone who isn't there.
In this episode, I'll show you how to pivot these circular conversations into productive problem-solving by focusing on what actually matters: the person right in front of you + what's within their control.
Main Ideas:
Why do leaders waste time investigating absent people instead of coaching the person present.
The Three-Step Pivot
How to shift from passive complaining to active agency, and why not taking sides is actually more helpful.
Ready to stop wasting time on people who aren't in the room? Let's focus your coaching energy where it can actually create change.
Maik Frank
Maik is a PCC Executive Coach and the founder of IntelliCoach.com. He has coached and trained over 400 People Leaders to improve their communication skills and offers guaranteed measurable growth to his clients. He also hosts the Coaching Leader Podcast.
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